In my LIT103 class, we were asked to advice Mr. Mallard—a character from the short story A Story of An Hour by Kate Chopin—about how to keep a happy relationship. I ended up listing things a guy should do to keep his woman happy. I made my professor read it and she said it was like reading a magazine post. Nonetheless, I’d love to share to you guys what I wrote for my LIT103 class 🙂
Some of the strongest romantic connections are spontaneous, start fast and move very quickly to falling in love. However, when you’re falling in love, you’re likely not worrying about the important issues that when they come up later can be a recipe for disaster. I’ve always gone back and forth with questions that you should ask and when you should ask them. Most of the questions that I’m going to list here in this post aren’t first-date questions; it’s probably way too invasive. When I’m talking to someone about their relationship, I’m always certain to figure out if they know the answers to these questions. I think there are just certain things that you guys should know about each other.
1. What are you like when you get upset?
Every couple should spend time figuring out what happens when their significant other is upset. What are those things that upset…
In a relationship, quarreling is normal. It can never be avoided. Why is that so? Well, we all have different opinions towards things. We can’t always agree with each other—not even with the person we most love—and sometimes it leads us to quarrel or argue.
Some people think that relationships that have a lot of fights or quarreling mean that their relationship is unhealthy. I think that’s a wrong way of looking at it.
When you fight or argue, you get to release what you really feel. You get to tell the person why you’ve been acting strangely all of a sudden. You get to know why that person’s been avoiding you. You get to know his/her side of story…etc.
I’m not saying that fighting is always good. Fighting is good when you know how to deal with it properly. Fighting is a temporary thing. It shouldn’t be an everyday thing, otherwise, what’s the point of being together? Isn’t the reason why you’re with someone is because you want to be happy together?
How do you know that you’re in love? How do you know that you are loved? How does love even really feel?
Love is a feeling that cannot be clearly explained. Being in love is something that makes you happy; makes you smile at the end of the day; makes you a better person. Being loved or being in love is something everybody wants and needs. Continue reading →