Have you ever experienced being teased by people about you and your guy best friend? How they always make a fuss about the two of you being too close and how you guys are always hanging out? How they say that you two look cute together and you should date? Worse is that they mistake you for being a couple rather than being just friends—best of friends. Well, there is a thin line between love and friendship when it comes to guy best friends, for me at least.
You know how we experience a different kind of fun with our guy best friends; so much different from the kind of fun we get with our lady best friends? How conversations with him are different with your lady friends? Well, that’s the reason why I’m best friends with a guy. I’m not best friends with him because I like him in a romantic way.
People would always—and I mean always—ask me if I have feelings for my guy bestfriend. No. And never will I want us to be in that kind of relationship. Why?
1. I KNOW HIM TOO WELL
I don’t want to date my best friend because I know him too well. I know him too well that I know the things that I will make me hate him as a boyfriend and the things that I shouldn’t know if I were to be his girlfriend.
2. HE’S MORE LIKE A BROTHER THAN A LOVER TO ME
Now, you wouldn’t want to date your brother don’t ‘ya? That’s just…weird and very wrong. We may seem close and may seem “sweet” with one another, but that kind of sweetness and closeness that we have is more brotherly rather than romantic.
He’s brotherly in a way that he knows and tells me if a guy is worth dating. He tells me if he doesn’t like the guy I’m with. Just like how big brothers are protective of their little sisters.
3. I RESPECT OUR FRIENDSHIP VERY MUCH
Would you rather lose your best friend or your lover? I’d rather lose my lover but never my best friend because I know that no matter what happens, my best friend will always be there for me in the end. To give me advice, comfort me, listen to my rants, make me laugh, and all that friendship stuff. But once your best friend and your lover becomes one person, it is more likely that when things do not work out, you will lose both—your best friend and your lover. I don’t ever want to take that risk.
I’m not saying that falling in love with your best friend is wrong. If you’re willing to take the risks and if your hearts are screaming to be together, then go ahead. Love is love anyway. I’m just the type of person who value friendship over romance.